“Will my child be okay on their own?”
“Are they really ready to take on these responsibilities?”
“How can I best prepare them for what lies ahead?”
It’s true–the journey to self-sufficiency for young adults is not without its trials.There will be moments of doubt, setbacks, and situations that test your patience and resilience. Of course, this is an experience for any parent, but for those with children with autism, it can seem that much more overwhelming.
However, as with every age, there are countless opportunities for growth, breakthroughs and unexpected victories. Seeing your young adult take steps towards independence can be incredibly rewarding.
To support them in this journey towards independence, it’s important to focus on key strategies that can foster self-sufficiency and confidence.
- Teach Strategies for Managing Tasks
Often, we teach our children tasks, but neglect to help them with the planning and forethought behind these tasks. For young adults on the autism spectrum, learning strategies for breaking down and managing tasks can make a world of difference. Instead of feeling overwhelmed by a long to-do list, they can approach each responsibility in smaller, more manageable parts.
One effective technique is to work on a task bit by bit, taking regularly scheduled breaks in between to recharge. For example, listening to music, playing a short game, or engaging in a special interest for a set time during predictable breaks can help them stay motivated and prevent burnout.
Planning ahead is also an essential skill. Building in extra time to complete a task allows for pauses without feeling rushed, and having a clear timeline can ease anxiety about meeting deadlines. You can also teach them to use reminders on their phone or on post-its around the house to help them stay on track.
- Start Building Life Skills Early
Developing life skills is a long-term process that requires plenty of time and practice. It’s never too early to introduce your child to these skills, and starting early provides a safe environment for trial and error.
- Meal Preparation: Ask your child to choose a recipe they like, then work together to prepare a grocery list. Depending on their comfort level, they can go to the grocery store independently or with support. This is also a great opportunity to discuss meal planning and how often they should be shopping for food.
- Laundry: Teach your child the steps it takes to do their laundry. Help them to sort the clothes, select the correct detergent, and use the washing machine and dryer. Let them know why it’s important to dry clothes promptly, and how to set up a regular laundry schedule.
- Cleaning Their Space: Creating a cleaning kit with essential supplies and explaining how to use each product can simplify the process for your child. A visual checklist of cleaning tasks, from wiping down countertops to vacuuming, can be helpful. If your young adult is sensitive to cleaning products, provide gloves for protection.
- Focus on Self-Advocacy
Self-advocacy is a vital aspect of independence. Young adults with autism should be empowered to make decisions about their lives, from how they spend their free time to where they live. Encourage them to speak up about their needs and preferences. Start small, with having them choose a meal each week, and build from there.
When young adults are included in planning their own lives, they feel more motivated and capable. A supportive environment that prioritizes their input can lead to a more fulfilling, self-sufficient life.
By focusing on tasks for independence, and how to manage them, you are equipping your young adult with the tools they need to thrive in adulthood. Remember, every step forward–no matter how small–is a victory worth celebrating. With patience, compassion, and consistent support, you will help them build a life filled with confidence and meaningful accomplishments.
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